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Tired, troubled marriages can be recharged by plugging into the seven principles and the complementary activity exercises explained in this practical workbook of self-discovery and inspiration. Direct, kind, and no-nonsense language highlights common problems that feel so uncommon in the moment and offers solutions. Solutions hinge on the seven pillars of marriage, which the Patricks arrived at through years of matrimony, marriage coaching, and mentorship: purpose, promise, passion, positive connection, powerful communication, preserved trust, and progressive finances.
Bonus chapters include authentic case studies from veterans and novices with practical "do's and don'ts" and "ideas that work." For example, announce when you are going to vent, go to bed together at the same time, and remember that your spouse is more important than your friends. Creative tips, such as "alphabet dating," the Triple Action (compliment, touch, and say "I love you" three times a day), the Ten-Minute Rule (discuss meaningful things ten minutes a day), and the notion that "sex is comfort food, " will rejuvenate the humdrum.
The concept of pillars as a metaphor for a strong marital foundation works well. Each chapter addresses a pillar for an easy-to-follow blueprint for learning the principles. "Spouse Supporting Positive Action" (SPA) exercises, prayers and affirmations, and a downloadable worksheet help cement the principles into habits. A bibliography and a couple's reading list lend validity to the simple yet profound advice.
The Patricks candidly admit where they went wrong, address the touchy subject of infidelity, and emphasize that a shared vision, genuine compliments, communication, and compatibility, as well as diversity, are essential. Readers learn how to take marriage from good to great by recognizing the important stuff without complicating the issue. Anecdotes from diverse marriages validate feelings and suggest solutions. Both newlyweds and long-married couples will earn their "Spousology degree" and newfound hope for their futures.