This nineteen-chapter book examines a variety of topics related to finding the wrong man, including his myriad red flags, as well as a woman's needs, such as using intuition, assessing one's own sanity, and maintaining boundaries. But the main focus is on the male of the species and the games that are played, such as love bombing, gaslighting, ghosting, game playing, the silent treatment, blaming, emotional unavailability, and excessive jealousy, as well as other narcissist behaviors. These are behaviors that will often make a woman think that she is the crazy one, the impaired one, or the one who needs mental health treatment. In fact, she will benefit by such treatment because the outcome of such red flags can destroy a woman if she is not careful.

Written by someone who has experienced such behaviors, the book offers insights throughout. Easily readable, making sometimes difficult information relatable to the audience, and well-organized, the book is written for women by a woman and features stories from the author's personal experiences. What's missing is any information about the author herself, leaving one to wonder whether the writer is simply someone who has experienced such horrors or is also a professional in the field. Either way, this is an interesting take, often funny, often painful, and never boring, for it is accurate in its description of red flags. It offers valuable coping skills for women to deal with these various insidious forms of behaviors, including keeping a journal, meditation and mindfulness, yoga, running, believing in one's own emotions, trusting one's intuition, setting boundaries, utilizing a support system, and going to therapy. It sometimes overgeneralizes about men, but it is accurate in identifying red flags, is often self-deprecating, and is always fascinating.

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