This engaging self-help volume rises to the task of systematically outlining how to develop and maintain a happy, fulfilling marriage. Authors Alexander and Peirce combine their decades of transformative life experience and career expertise in psychology to deftly describe the concrete, methodical steps couples can take to turn nearly broken relationships into friendly, accommodating unions that survive and thrive. The authors’ enthusiasm for their topic shines through the six sections of well-organized themed chapters containing concrete steps and suggestions for “Powerfully Creating Couple Unity,” “Creating Shared Values and Vision,” “Creating a Loving Partnership,” Creating Connecting Experiences,” Forging Deeper Connection,” and “Expanding Beyond Us.”

As described in the introduction, the accessible science-based tools and suggestions are designed to be actively practiced by couples as they navigate the highs and lows of their relationship. The foundation of the authors’ system consists of “Core Elements,” “Unifiers,” and “Virtues.” The concepts are embraceable as action steps to better understand partners’ mutual and individual needs and responses. The system's flexibility allows couples to devise their own “toolkits” of concepts to apply to their discussions. These are designed to reinforce clear communication and foster commitment and unity for individual and marital growth.

Section One sets the stage with three foundational principles to study and practice before learning the nineteen “unifiers” described in succeeding chapters. The authors suggest that the first two sections are primarily foundational, and the remaining sections build upon these. Readers are encouraged to progress at their own pace, and the system is adaptable to the needs and preferences of different couples. Perhaps additional descriptive passages of either real case histories or fictional couples could be integrated into the chapters. These would be used to illustrate the situations, challenges, and successes that arise as the authors' system is integrated into a couple's daily routine. Overall, the authors’ helpful and practical book ticks all the boxes.

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