The Caregiver's Journey
by Elizabeth Dell
WestBow Press


"All my angst was coming from the belittling way he treated me and the way he rejected me."

As an only child, Dell cared for her parents, Ginny and Jack, for twenty years before they passed away. Her father was a narcissist, and her mother was slowly deteriorating due to Alzheimer's disease. These challenges made caregiving difficult because whenever caregivers focused on Ginny, Jack would become jealous. As a result, caregivers often redirected their attention to Jack, thereby delaying the addressing of Ginny's needs. Additionally, Jack became dependent on a caregiver who manipulated and exploited both him and Ginny. Because of these circumstances, Dell decided to research her father's narcissism to better understand it and protect herself and her mother.

Throughout this journey, Dell reflects on her experiences caring for her aging parents while also managing her own family responsibilities. In her work, Dell thoroughly examines the complexities of her father's narcissism and her experiences as a caregiver. She addresses these topics with transparency to facilitate a comprehensive understanding of her personal journey. By sharing her real-life experiences and reflections, Dell enables readers to connect with her on a profound level. For instance, individuals caring for parents who exhibit narcissistic behavior or who are afflicted with Alzheimer's disease may find resonance in Dell's narrative, while those new to such circumstances may derive valuable insights as they navigate their own caregiving journeys.

Moreover, the author underscores the critical importance of vigilance in selecting caregivers for parents. In instances where a caregiver demonstrated untrustworthiness or questionable intentions, Dell consistently advocated for her parents' interests, striving to eliminate any detrimental influences. This commitment illustrates the inherent challenges of caregiving and reinforces the need to remain steadfast in one's efforts to ensure optimal care for family members.

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