"Each of us grieve in different ways, for different amounts of time, and recover from the loss very, very differently."

In 2004, author Goulet received a terrible phone call. A police officer informed him that his daughter Stephanie was dead. As Goulet often reiterates, there is nothing that anyone can say that can relieve the sense of darkness that afflicts a parent who has lost a child. His recollections form both a reflection on Stephanie's positive qualities and a recounting of the painful, day-by-day struggles experienced by him and his wife in their grieving process. Initially, they sought advice, and in a series of coincidences, seeming like signs from a higher source, they found a helpful book and a good counseling match. As well, the couple, who share a deep religious faith, remained mutually supportive. Both undertook physical fitness programs, lost weight, and regained health. Gradually they overcame numerous barriers, such as fulfilling the commitment they had both made to finish college programs while dealing with Stephanie's passing, seeking improved employment in an economic downturn, moving to another place, and starting a new life.

Goulet has distanced himself from his realm of expertise in business to compose this openhearted, emotionally charged story. He recalls several mystical markers that helped him along the way, such as the appearance of flocks of bluebirds at a critical time. They offered encouragement and inspired the cover art for his book. Goulet writes with humility, knowing that everyone has his or her own time and manner of grieving. Some of his suggestions, particularly those listed in the final chapter, are for friends and family. All are practical, designed to promote greater understanding. Goulet's honest appraisal of the complex mechanism of the grief process can surely help other parents suffering the loss of a child to regain a sense of the purpose of life, seeking and finding, as he did, many small, hopeful signposts for further guidance.

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